To Have And To Hold?

Hey Guys!
How's your Friday going? I had a really long nap which is why I'm posting at this time, I think I'll say my Friday is going wonderfully well😉

So some days ago at work, we were discussing about some particular marriage cases, ( this actually contributes a large percentage of cases we receive every week) and I didn't know when I brought out my pen and book and started taking notes, I actually mentally laughed at myself.
#thingsonlybloggersunderstand

One woman came and said she wanted a divorce after just being married for 8 months. We were shocked but it's obviously not our business, so we told her that Our Commission cannot dissolve the marriage and that it's the court's duty but if the man had been abusing her in any way then, we would be able to come in.

The person who was interrogating her asked her why she wanted the divorce?
She said it was based on infertility on the side of the man. He didn't say till they got married and he'd had the problem for some years now. Madam said she's not getting any younger and she wants to convieve before menopause comes knocking so, she wants out.

That's the first story.

The second one is that a woman laid a complaint about her husband on the grounds of infidelity. The thing is that this man is very rich and so, the woman lacks absolutely nothing (you should see the car she drives). This man also claims to respect and love his wife but he said that he can't just stop carrying girls around.
He also said that one of the reasons he can't stop is because the woman polices him all around, gives him numerous missed calls, goes around every joint looking for him. His point is that the woman is the one driving him to cheat.

All these stories just let me to the question "why exactly do people get married? " Some weeks back Thonia of thoniabankz.com also blogged about it and she raised some valid points. You can check it HERE

I couldn't help but think though, these women coming to report on daily basis at one point in time, were in good places with their spouses but, all of a sudden they want out. What could have gone wrong?
I remember one woman crying and saying that she hates her husband and can never forgive him to his face!
I won't lie, I get frightened when I see some of these things but my assurance is that I know that my tomorrow will be alright.

Love is a beautiful thing and I know spending the rest of your life with someone who you love, care about and would do almost anything for is pretty amazing too. These days though, i think love alone can't cut it. Prayer, Communication, Respect, Trust, Maturity, Self control, etc. are things that need to be well incoporated into marriage for it to work properly, I mean it's a forever thing.

Most girls dream of a beautiful wedding with the man of their dreams, yes it's a good thing, but thinking that man will just waltz into your life like that without any work on your side is a mere fantasy. Wake up!
Marriage is a wonderful institution that was created by God, so therefore when you decide to do things without the creator of this institution, you might be wasting your time.

 For you to really Have and Hold down this fort, you need to be willing to do some work. Like my dad will say "no be moi-moi".

One other thing I think it's important is listening and obeying your parents when it comes to the choice of partners. My Dad is always singing it to me that if he tells me that this is not the right person for me, he knows what he is saying, but if I now go ahead and do my own and anything happens I should better not come back and make noise. Me I will just laugh but deep down I'm taking notes.

One thing you cannot rule out in marriage is the blessings of your parents. I have seen enough of proof that without their blessings or when you decide not to listen to them , there can be serious consequences.

There you have it Ladies and Gents, but as you know this is just what Mide thinks.
Now what do you think about this thing called Marriage? I would love to know.

Mide♡