"...The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." - Henry J.M. Nouwen.

Deep huh? I know. I stumbled on this quote while I was making my research for this post and out of all the others I saw, this particular one sort of called out to me because it sums up all that a true friend is and should be.

I've had this post idea for a while now, but it turns out that your data has to be completely exhausted before you can put your mind totally into writingπŸ™ˆ
I hope y'all are enjoying your weekend though?

To the business of the day,

We all know that no matter how independent and solitary we think we are, at some point, we always need someone to share some of our life changing experiences with, someone to laugh with,someone who can listen to us without any judgement whatsoever, this is exactly what a true
friend does.
Now I'll lay emphasis on 'true' because not all the friends we meet in life are true. Some of them come off as trustworthy and caring only for them to betray our trust along the way and we all know that betrayal stings more than anything, but you know what they say ; people come into your life for two major reasons, either to be a blessing or to teach you a lesson.

True friends however, are a constant support in our lives. From sharing secrets, exchanging advices, planning ahead for the future and sharing your goals to just killing time doing nothing really. You just know that each time spent with them is one you'd cherish forever. True friendship doesn't put a lot of things into cognizance, things like family background,religion, sexuality,social background, looks,etc.

"Love is blind. Friendship tries not to notice" - Otto von Bismarck.

This post is basically about the various types of friends that we all have regardless of whether they are a blessing or a lesson.

The Intellectual/know-it-all: These type of friends tend to know a lot about everything that happens to you and then they try to tell you that there's a certain way to handle that particular situation. They make you think about things very deeply, sometimes it might not be that serious but you can't blame them either, they are just trying to look out for you.

The Funny and the Frivolous: These ones are the direct opposites of the intellectual, they might not 'know it all' but they do know how to make you feel better. There's never a dull moment around them, you know that no matter how awful you might be feeling, hanging out with them will always cheer you up. Sometimes, their timing might be wrong but you'll reallize along the line that you needed them anyway. Their specialty is cracking you up, you laugh so hard that your ribs hurt.

The Listener: You know those days when you just want to go on and on about all that is bothering you and all that you have done without anybody stopping you, those days when you just want someone to listen to you, these type of friends come in handy on days like this. They listen to you, they relate with your pain, at that moment,they allow you to pass whatever aggression you have on them. They just sit there and listen.

The Talker: This particular friend literally won't shut up. They always have something to say, it doesn't matter what the topic of discussion is, they dive all the way in and trust me they don't even know when to stop. They are the kind of people that you'll give the stink eye just for them to zip it and they'll be like 'deola why are you looking at me like that,is there something on my face?' Eventually you get used to their yapping because no matter how annoying they are,you still love them..not all of them though.Lol

The Spiritual Friend: We all have them. Some of them can be a little bit judgmental, but I'm not talking about those particular ones now.I'm talking those ones that motivate you in a good way, the ones that are able to tell you with love that you can do better than how you're doing now.They share with you times when they were in the dark and their constant struggle with doing the right things at all times just so you know that they're not supernatural but humans like you constantly seeking for guidance, they pray with you and they pray for you.Their major aim is to draw you closer to God.


The Mom: This type of friend is mostly overprotective of you, someone you look up to, the kind of person that you can call when you're having a bad day because she's caring and will listen to you. Sometimes she can be very harsh when it comes to correcting you only because she has a little bit of experience herself and doesn't want you to get hurt. The thing is she will always be there for you no matter what

The Dad: This type of friend is quite similar to the 'mom'. He or she like the mom is quite protective, blunt and very hardworking. They can be stubborn but can also be very supportive, they want to see you succeed and they also want to protect you from getting hurt.

The Turn up Kings and Queens : They always want to party and of course they want to drag you along. To them you're boring and uptight and so you need to loosen up. They are the kind that will say 'just one shot' but you know you're a goner already.They always want to turn every of your birthdays to some major celebration when you'd rather just be low-key. These friends are responsible for helping to unleash your alter ego who you'd rather keep locked inside ,sometimes good,other times not so much πŸ˜‰

The Stylish friend: We all have those friends that you're subtly just planning how to steal their insanely gorgeous shoes or dress because these people are very stylish. Trust me you need them in your life. They are the ones that you call when you need a fashion intervention before you go out looking like a trainwreck. You trust their judgement on how each item should be combined and once you step out, all that is in playing in your head is beyonce and nicki's 'feeling myself'.

The Friend who lies: These people just kind of add spice to the 'friendship' lol. I mean the kind of tales that they come up with is just beyond me, sometimes you need to ask yourself whether you're still in kindergarten because it's only there that fables like that come up. You know they're lying but you just want to hear them go through with it. It's really hilarious most times.

The Friend who films everything: Well, what can we say? Snapchat has taken over and it's important to document good memories. I say 'we' because I kinda fall into this category😊 it's for a good cause trust me. 

Remember that you will only attract friends like yourself, so do your best to be a true friend.

I'm sure there are other types of friends that I didn't mention, please be kind enough to enlighten me In the comment section, I would love to know your thoughts.

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  1. Nice one. But what about the best friends? How do you know them? Do they have it all?

    1. I guess so,you know best friends have a way of annoying you but even at that you can't do without them, i'd say that are a blessing though rather than a lesson.
      Thanks for reading and contributing☺


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